Jami` at-Tirmidhi #1963
Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives
The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا بَهْزُ بْنُ حَكِيمٍ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ جَدِّي، قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَنْ أَبَرُّ قَالَ " أُمَّكَ " . قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ " أُمَّكَ " . قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ " أُمَّكَ " . قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ " ثُمَّ أَبَاكَ ثُمَّ الأَقْرَبَ فَالأَقْرَبَ " . قَالَ وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ وَعَائِشَةَ وَأَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى وَبَهْزُ بْنُ حَكِيمٍ هُوَ ابْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ بْنِ حَيْدَةَ الْقُشَيْرِيُّ . وَهَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ . وَقَدْ تَكَلَّمَ شُعْبَةُ فِي بَهْزِ بْنِ حَكِيمٍ وَهُوَ ثِقَةٌ عِنْدَ أَهْلِ الْحَدِيثِ وَرَوَى عَنْهُ مَعْمَرٌ وَالثَّوْرِيُّ وَحَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ وَغَيْرُ وَاحِدٍ مِنَ الأَئِمَّةِ .
"I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! Who most deserves(my) reverence?' He said: 'Your mother.'" He said: "I said: 'Then who?' He said: 'Your mother.'"
He said: "I said: 'Then who?' He said: 'Your mother.'"
He said: "I said: 'Then who?' He said: 'Then your father, then the nearest relatives, then the nearest relatives.'"
Narrated by Bahz bin Hakim narrated from his father, from his grandfather who said:
Context
In this hadith, the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was asked about who deserves the most respect. He repeatedly emphasized the mother, indicating her paramount importance, followed by the father and then other relatives. This highlights the significance of honoring and respecting one's parents and family.
Modern Application
This principle is particularly relevant today as we navigate family dynamics. Taking time to honor and care for our parents and relatives fosters strong family bonds and reflects our values of respect and gratitude.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Family and Respectful Communication because it underscores the importance of honoring one's mother and family members, promoting respectful interactions within the family.
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About Jami` at-Tirmidhi
This hadith is #1963 from Jami` at-Tirmidhi, in the Book of Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives. It is graded Sahih and narrated by Bahz bin Hakim narrated from his father, from his grandfather who said:.