Jami` at-Tirmidhi #1966
Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives
The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ، عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ السَّائِبِ الْهُجَيْمِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ السُّلَمِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ، أَنَّ رَجُلاً، أَتَاهُ فَقَالَ إِنَّ لِي امْرَأَةً وَإِنَّ أُمِّي تَأْمُرُنِي بِطَلاَقِهَا . قَالَ أَبُو الدَّرْدَاءِ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ
" الْوَالِدُ أَوْسَطُ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ فَإِنْ شِئْتَ فَأَضِعْ ذَلِكَ الْبَابَ أَوِ احْفَظْهُ " . قَالَ وَقَالَ ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ وَرُبَّمَا قَالَ سُفْيَانُ إِنَّ أُمِّي وَرُبَّمَا قَالَ أَبِي . وَهَذَا حَدِيثٌ صَحِيحٌ . وَأَبُو عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ السُّلَمِيُّ اسْمُهُ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ حَبِيبٍ .
He said that a man came and said : "I have a wife whom my mother has ordered me to divorce." So Abu Ad-Darda said: " I heard the Messenger of Allah saying: 'The father is the middle gate to Paradise. So if you wish, then neglect that door, or protect it.'"
Narrated by Abu 'Abdur-Rahman As-Sulami narrated from Abu Ad Darda'.:
Context
A man approached Abu Ad-Darda' expressing a conflict between his wife's wishes and his mother's command to divorce her. Abu Ad-Darda' recalled the Prophet Muhammad's (ﷺ) teaching that the father is the middle gate to Paradise, emphasizing the importance of respecting parental wishes while balancing personal relationships.
Modern Application
In contemporary family dynamics, this hadith highlights the importance of navigating familial obligations and personal choices. It encourages individuals to find a balance between honoring parents and maintaining healthy relationships with spouses.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Family and Rights of Women because it reflects the significance of family dynamics and the rights of women in marital relationships.
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This hadith is #1966 from Jami` at-Tirmidhi, in the Book of Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives. It is graded Sahih and narrated by Abu 'Abdur-Rahman As-Sulami narrated from Abu Ad Darda'.:.