Sunan Abu Dawud #5182
General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)
The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ عَبْدَةَ، أَخْبَرَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ خُصَيْفَةَ، عَنْ بُسْرِ بْنِ سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ، قَالَ كُنْتُ جَالِسًا فِي مَجْلِسٍ مِنْ مَجَالِسِ الأَنْصَارِ فَجَاءَ أَبُو مُوسَى فَزِعًا فَقُلْنَا لَهُ مَا أَفْزَعَكَ قَالَ أَمَرَنِي عُمَرُ أَنْ آتِيَهُ فَأَتَيْتُهُ فَاسْتَأْذَنْتُ ثَلاَثًا فَلَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لِي فَرَجَعْتُ فَقَالَ مَا مَنَعَكَ أَنْ تَأْتِيَنِي قُلْتُ قَدْ جِئْتُ فَاسْتَأْذَنْتُ ثَلاَثًا فَلَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لِي وَقَدْ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم
" إِذَا اسْتَأْذَنَ أَحَدُكُمْ ثَلاَثًا فَلَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لَهُ فَلْيَرْجِعْ " . قَالَ لَتَأْتِيَنِّي عَلَى هَذَا بِالْبَيِّنَةِ قَالَ فَقَالَ أَبُو سَعِيدٍ لاَ يَقُومُ مَعَكَ إِلاَّ أَصْغَرُ الْقَوْمِ . قَالَ فَقَامَ أَبُو سَعِيدٍ مَعَهُ فَشَهِدَ لَهُ .
I was sitting in one of the meeting of the Ansar. Abu Musa came terrified. We asked him; what makes you terrified? He replied: ‘Umar sent for me; so I went to him and asked his permission three times, but he did not permit me (to enter), so I came back. He asked; what has prevented you from coming to me? I replied: I came and asked permission three times, but it was not granted to me (so I returned). The Messenger of Allah (May peace be upon him) has said: When one of you asks permission three times and it is not granted to him, he should go away. He (‘Umar’) said; establish the proof of it. So Abu Sa’id said: the youngest of the people will accompany you. So Abu Sa’id got up with him and testified.
Narrated by Abu Sa’id al-Khudri said:
Context
In this hadith, Abu Sa’id al-Khudri recounts an incident involving Abu Musa and Umar, emphasizing the importance of seeking permission before entering someone’s space. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) taught that if permission is not granted after three requests, one should leave. This reflects the values of respect and privacy in social interactions.
Modern Application
This principle is applicable today as it underscores the importance of respecting others' boundaries. It encourages individuals to be considerate and to seek permission before intruding into someone else's personal space.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Respectful Greetings and Seeking Permission because it addresses the etiquette of entering others' spaces and the importance of obtaining consent.
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About Sunan Abu Dawud
This hadith is #5182 from Sunan Abu Dawud, in the Book of General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab) and narrated by Abu Sa’id al-Khudri said:.