Jami` at-Tirmidhi #1143
The Book on Marriage
The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا بِشْرُ بْنُ السَّرِيِّ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ أَبِي قِلاَبَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ يَزِيدَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم كَانَ يَقْسِمُ بَيْنَ نِسَائِهِ فَيَعْدِلُ وَيَقُولُ " اللَّهُمَّ هَذِهِ قِسْمَتِي فِيمَا أَمْلِكُ فَلاَ تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلاَ أَمْلِكُ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى حَدِيثُ عَائِشَةَ هَكَذَا رَوَاهُ غَيْرُ وَاحِدٍ عَنْ حَمَّادِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ عَنْ أَيُّوبَ عَنْ أَبِي قِلاَبَةَ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ يَزِيدَ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم كَانَ يَقْسِمُ . وَرَوَاهُ حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ وَغَيْرُ وَاحِدٍ عَنْ أَيُّوبَ عَنْ أَبِي قِلاَبَةَ مُرْسَلاً أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم كَانَ يَقْسِمُ . وَهَذَا أَصَحُّ مِنْ حَدِيثِ حَمَّادِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ . وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ " لاَ تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلاَ أَمْلِكُ " . إِنَّمَا يَعْنِي بِهِ الْحُبَّ وَالْمَوَدَّةَ كَذَا فَسَّرَهُ بَعْضُ أَهْلِ الْعِلْمِ .
The Prophet would divide (his time) equally between his wives and said: "O Allah! This is my division in what I have control over, so do not punish me for what You have control over which I do not have control over."
Narrated by Aishah narrated that:
Context
This hadith discusses the Prophet Muhammad's (ﷺ) fairness in distributing his time among his wives. It highlights the importance of justice and equity in family relationships, emphasizing the need for balance and fairness in personal interactions.
Modern Application
In contemporary life, this teaching encourages individuals to strive for fairness and equity in their relationships, whether in families or friendships. It serves as a reminder of the importance of giving attention and care to all loved ones.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Justice and Family because it underscores the significance of fairness in familial relationships.
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You, [O Muhammad], may put aside whom you will of them or take to yourself whom you will. And any that you desire of those [wives] from whom you had [temporarily] separated - there is no blame upon you [in returning her]. That is more suitable that they should be content and not grieve and that they should be satisfied with what you have given them - all of them. And Allah knows what is in your hearts. And ever is Allah Knowing and Forbearing.
يَٰنِسَآءَ ٱلنَّبِىِّ مَن يَأْتِ مِنكُنَّ بِفَٰحِشَةٍۢ مُّبَيِّنَةٍۢ يُضَٰعَفْ لَهَا ٱلْعَذَابُ ضِعْفَيْنِ ۚ وَكَانَ ذَٰلِكَ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ يَسِيرًۭا
O wives of the Prophet, whoever of you should commit a clear immorality - for her the punishment would be doubled two fold, and ever is that, for Allah, easy.
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About Jami` at-Tirmidhi
This hadith is #1143 from Jami` at-Tirmidhi, in the Book of The Book on Marriage. It is graded Da'if and narrated by Aishah narrated that:.