Jami` at-Tirmidhi #2064
Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives
The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتِ اسْتَأْذَنَ رَجُلٌ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَأَنَا عِنْدَهُ فَقَالَ " بِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ أَوْ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ " . ثُمَّ أَذِنَ لَهُ فَأَلاَنَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ قُلْتُ لَهُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قُلْتَ لَهُ مَا قُلْتَ ثُمَّ أَلَنْتَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ . فَقَالَ " يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ مِنْ شَرِّ النَّاسِ مَنْ تَرَكَهُ النَّاسُ أَوْ وَدَعَهُ النَّاسُ اتِّقَاءَ فُحْشِهِ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ .
"A man sought permission to enter upon the Messenger of Allah while I was with him, so he said:
'What an evil son of his tribe, or brother of his tribe.' Then he admitted him and spoke with him. When he left, I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! You said what you said about him. Then you talked politely with him?' He said: 'O 'Aishah! Indeed among the evilest of people are those whom the people avoid, or who the people leave, fearing his filthy speech.'"
Narrated by Aisha narrated:
Context
This narration illustrates a moment when a man sought permission to enter the presence of the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ). Initially, the Prophet expressed disdain for the man, labeling him as 'evil.' However, upon admitting him, the Prophet spoke kindly. This reflects the importance of treating others with respect, regardless of initial impressions or judgments.
Modern Application
In contemporary interactions, this hadith encourages us to approach others with kindness and respect, even if our first impressions are negative. It serves as a reminder that everyone deserves a chance to be treated well, fostering a more compassionate society.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Prophetic Conduct and Respectful Communication because it demonstrates the balance between honest feelings and respectful treatment of others, reflecting the Prophet's exemplary character.
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This hadith is #2064 from Jami` at-Tirmidhi, in the Book of Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives. It is graded Hasan and narrated by Aisha narrated:.