Sahih al-Bukhari #5801
Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab)
The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ سَلاَمٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَهَّابِ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي مُلَيْكَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ـ رضى الله عنها أَنَّ يَهُودَ، أَتَوُا النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالُوا السَّامُ عَلَيْكُمْ. فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ عَلَيْكُمْ، وَلَعَنَكُمُ اللَّهُ، وَغَضِبَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكُمْ. قَالَ " مَهْلاً يَا عَائِشَةُ، عَلَيْكِ بِالرِّفْقِ، وَإِيَّاكِ وَالْعُنْفَ وَالْفُحْشَ ". قَالَتْ أَوَلَمْ تَسْمَعْ مَا قَالُوا قَالَ " أَوَلَمْ تَسْمَعِي مَا قُلْتُ رَدَدْتُ عَلَيْهِمْ، فَيُسْتَجَابُ لِي فِيهِمْ، وَلاَ يُسْتَجَابُ لَهُمْ فِيَّ ".
`Aisha said that the Jews came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, "As-Samu 'Alaikum" (death be on you).
`Aisha said (to them), "(Death) be on you, and may Allah curse you and shower His wrath upon you!"
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Be calm, O `Aisha ! You should be kind and lenient, and beware of harshness and
Fuhsh (i.e. bad words)." She said (to the Prophet), "Haven't you heard what they (Jews) have said?"
He said, "Haven't you heard what I have said (to them)? I said the same to them, and my invocation
against them will be accepted while theirs against me will be rejected (by Allah). "
Narrated by Narrated `Abdullah bin Mulaika:
Context
This hadith recounts an incident where the Jews greeted the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ with a phrase that implied a curse. Aisha, upset by their words, responded harshly. However, the Prophet ﷺ advised her to be gentle and avoid harshness, reminding her that his response would be more impactful than theirs. This illustrates the importance of maintaining composure and kindness, even in the face of provocation.
Modern Application
In modern life, this teaches us the value of responding to negativity with grace and patience. Whether in personal interactions or on social media, choosing kindness over anger can lead to more constructive outcomes.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Respectful Communication because it emphasizes the significance of responding to others with kindness, even when faced with hostility.
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About Sahih al-Bukhari
This hadith is #5801 from Sahih al-Bukhari, in the Book of Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab). It is graded Sahih and narrated by Narrated `Abdullah bin Mulaika:.