Sunan Abu Dawud #2135
Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)
The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ أَبِي قِلاَبَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ يَزِيدَ الْخَطْمِيِّ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقْسِمُ فَيَعْدِلُ وَيَقُولُ
" اللَّهُمَّ هَذَا قَسْمِي فِيمَا أَمْلِكُ فَلاَ تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلاَ أَمْلِكُ " . يَعْنِي الْقَلْبَ .
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) used to divide his time equally and said: O Allah, this is my division concerning what I control, so do not blame me concerning what You control and I do not.
Abu Dawud said: By it meant the heart.
Narrated by Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:
Context
In this hadith, Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin, narrates how the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) divided his time fairly among his wives. He acknowledged that while he could manage his time, the feelings of the heart were beyond his control. This highlights the importance of fairness and justice in relationships, especially in matters of affection and time allocation.
Modern Application
In today's context, this principle can be applied to how partners manage their time and attention in a relationship. Ensuring that both individuals feel valued and prioritized can strengthen their bond and foster mutual respect.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Spiritual Reflection because it emphasizes the importance of fairness in relationships and the acknowledgment of feelings that are beyond one's control.
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About Sunan Abu Dawud
This hadith is #2135 from Sunan Abu Dawud, in the Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah). It is graded Sahih and narrated by Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:.