My husband, Aws ibn as-Samit, pronounced the words: You are like my mother. So I came to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), complaining to him about my husband.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) disputed with me and said: Remain dutiful to Allah; he is your cousin.
I continued (complaining) until the Qur'anic verse came down: "Certainly has Allah heard the speech of the one who argues with you, till the prescription of expiation.
He then said: He should set free a slave. She said: He cannot afford it. He said: He should fast for two consecutive months. She said: Messenger of Allah, he is an old man; he cannot keep fasts. He said: He should feed sixty poor people. She said: He has nothing which he may give in alms. At that moment an araq (i.e. date-basket holding fifteen or sixteen sa's) was brought to him.
I said: I shall help him with another date-basked ('araq). He said: You have done well. Go and feed sixty poor people on his behalf, and return to your cousin. The narrator said: An araq holds sixty sa's of dates.
Abu Dawud said: She atoned on his behalf without seeking his permission.
Abu Dawud said: This man (Aws b. al-Samit) is the brother of 'Ubadah b. al-Samit.
Narrated by Narrated Khuwaylah, daughter of Malik ibn Tha'labah:
Context
In this hadith, Khuwaylah, the daughter of Malik ibn Tha'labah, approaches the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) to seek guidance after her husband, Aws ibn as-Samit, pronounces a form of divorce known as 'zihar.' The Prophet (ﷺ) initially advises her to remain dutiful to Allah, emphasizing the familial connection. Eventually, a revelation comes down that prescribes an expiation for her husband's statement, leading to a discussion about the means of atonement, which includes feeding the poor.
Modern Application
This hadith highlights the importance of seeking guidance in difficult family situations. Today, individuals facing marital challenges can benefit from consulting knowledgeable figures or community leaders to find solutions that align with Islamic teachings, fostering understanding and compassion.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Family because it addresses the dynamics of marital relationships and the importance of seeking guidance in resolving disputes.
Certainly has Allah heard the speech of the one who argues with you, [O Muhammad], concerning her husband and directs her complaint to Allah. And Allah hears your dialogue; indeed, Allah is Hearing and Seeing.
And those who pronounce thihar from their wives and then [wish to] go back on what they said - then [there must be] the freeing of a slave before they touch one another. That is what you are admonished thereby; and Allah is Acquainted with what you do.
And [remember, O Muhammad], when you said to the one on whom Allah bestowed favor and you bestowed favor, "Keep your wife and fear Allah," while you concealed within yourself that which Allah is to disclose. And you feared the people, while Allah has more right that you fear Him. So when Zayd had no longer any need for her, We married her to you in order that there not be upon the believers any discomfort concerning the wives of their adopted sons when they no longer have need of them. And ever is the command of Allah accomplished.
And they both raced to the door, and she tore his shirt from the back, and they found her husband at the door. She said, "What is the recompense of one who intended evil for your wife but that he be imprisoned or a painful punishment?"
Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful.
This hadith is #2215 from Sunan Abu Dawud, in the Book of Divorce (Kitab Al-Talaq). It is graded Sahih and narrated by Narrated Khuwaylah, daughter of Malik ibn Tha'labah:.