Sunan Abu Dawud #4794

General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)
Da'if

The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.

حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، رضى الله عنها أَنَّ رَجُلاً، اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطَ إِلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَكَلَّمَهُ فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَمَّا اسْتَأْذَنَ قُلْتَ ‏"‏ بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطْتَ إِلَيْهِ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لاَ يُحِبُّ الْفَاحِشَ الْمُتَفَحِّشَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
A man asked permission to see the Prophet (ﷺ), and the Prophet (ﷺ) said: He is a bad member of the tribe. When he entered, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) treated in a frank and friendly way and spoke to him. When he departed , I said: Messenger of Allah! When he asked permission, you said: He is a bad member of the tribe, but when he entered, you treated him in a frank and friendly way. The Messenger of Allah replied: Aisha! Allah does not like the one who is unseemly and lewd in his language.
Narrated by Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:

Context

In this hadith, Aisha, the wife of the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ), observes a discrepancy between the Prophet's initial judgment of a man and his subsequent friendly demeanor upon the man's arrival. The Prophet explains that Allah does not favor those who use lewd language. This interaction highlights the importance of respectful communication and the need to treat others with kindness, regardless of initial impressions.

Modern Application

In modern interactions, this hadith encourages us to approach others with an open heart and mind, setting aside preconceived notions. Practicing respectful communication can foster better relationships and create a more harmonious environment in both personal and professional settings.

Topics

This hadith is tagged with Respectful Communication and Prophetic Etiquette because it emphasizes the importance of treating others kindly and the etiquette demonstrated by the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ).

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This hadith is #4794 from Sunan Abu Dawud, in the Book of General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab). It is graded Da'if and narrated by Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:.

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