Jami` at-Tirmidhi #1182
The Book on Divorce and Li'an
The Arabic includes the chain of narration (sanad) and the collector's commentary; the English translation shows the Prophet's words only.
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ أَبِي خَالِدٍ، عَنِ الشَّعْبِيِّ، عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ خَيَّرَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَاخْتَرْنَاهُ أَفَكَانَ طَلاَقًا؟
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ أَبِي الضُّحَى، عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، بِمِثْلِهِ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ . وَاخْتَلَفَ أَهْلُ الْعِلْمِ فِي الْخِيَارِ فَرُوِيَ عَنْ عُمَرَ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ أَنَّهُمَا قَالاَ إِنِ اخْتَارَتْ نَفْسَهَا فَوَاحِدَةٌ بَائِنَةٌ . وَرُوِيَ عَنْهُمَا أَنَّهُمَا قَالاَ أَيْضًا وَاحِدَةٌ يَمْلِكُ الرَّجْعَةَ وَإِنِ اخْتَارَتْ زَوْجَهَا فَلاَ شَىْءَ . وَرُوِيَ عَنْ عَلِيٍّ أَنَّهُ قَالَ إِنِ اخْتَارَتْ نَفْسَهَا فَوَاحِدَةٌ بَائِنَةٌ وَإِنِ اخْتَارَتْ زَوْجَهَا فَوَاحِدَةٌ يَمْلِكُ الرَّجْعَةَ . وَقَالَ زَيْدُ بْنُ ثَابِتٍ إِنِ اخْتَارَتْ زَوْجَهَا فَوَاحِدَةٌ وَإِنِ اخْتَارَتْ نَفْسَهَا فَثَلاَثٌ . وَذَهَبَ أَكْثَرُ أَهْلِ الْعِلْمِ وَالْفِقْهِ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَمَنْ بَعْدَهُمْ فِي هَذَا الْبَابِ إِلَى قَوْلِ عُمَرَ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ وَهُوَ قَوْلُ الثَّوْرِيِّ وَأَهْلِ الْكُوفَةِ وَأَمَّا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ حَنْبَلٍ فَذَهَبَ إِلَى قَوْلِ عَلِيٍّ رضى الله عنه .
"The Messenger of Allah gave us the choice, so we chose him. So was that a divorce?"
Narrated by Aishah said:
Context
In this narration, Aishah recounts an interaction where the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) gave his wives a choice, leading to a discussion about the implications of that choice. This highlights the Prophet's approach to communication and decision-making within relationships, showcasing the importance of mutual respect and understanding.
Modern Application
In contemporary relationships, this principle encourages open communication and the importance of considering each other's feelings and choices. It serves as a reminder to foster healthy dialogues in personal interactions.
Topics
This hadith is tagged with Prophetic Conduct because it exemplifies the Prophet's method of engaging with his family and addressing their concerns.
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And if they decide on divorce - then indeed, Allah is Hearing and Knowing.
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Al-Ahzaab (The Clans)
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وَمَا كَانَ لِمُؤْمِنٍۢ وَلَا مُؤْمِنَةٍ إِذَا قَضَى ٱللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُۥٓ أَمْرًا أَن يَكُونَ لَهُمُ ٱلْخِيَرَةُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِمْ ۗ وَمَن يَعْصِ ٱللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُۥ فَقَدْ ضَلَّ ضَلَٰلًۭا مُّبِينًۭا
It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error.
وَإِذْ تَقُولُ لِلَّذِىٓ أَنْعَمَ ٱللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَأَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيْهِ أَمْسِكْ عَلَيْكَ زَوْجَكَ وَٱتَّقِ ٱللَّهَ وَتُخْفِى فِى نَفْسِكَ مَا ٱللَّهُ مُبْدِيهِ وَتَخْشَى ٱلنَّاسَ وَٱللَّهُ أَحَقُّ أَن تَخْشَىٰهُ ۖ فَلَمَّا قَضَىٰ زَيْدٌۭ مِّنْهَا وَطَرًۭا زَوَّجْنَٰكَهَا لِكَىْ لَا يَكُونَ عَلَى ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ حَرَجٌۭ فِىٓ أَزْوَٰجِ أَدْعِيَآئِهِمْ إِذَا قَضَوْا۟ مِنْهُنَّ وَطَرًۭا ۚ وَكَانَ أَمْرُ ٱللَّهِ مَفْعُولًۭا
And [remember, O Muhammad], when you said to the one on whom Allah bestowed favor and you bestowed favor, "Keep your wife and fear Allah," while you concealed within yourself that which Allah is to disclose. And you feared the people, while Allah has more right that you fear Him. So when Zayd had no longer any need for her, We married her to you in order that there not be upon the believers any discomfort concerning the wives of their adopted sons when they no longer have need of them. And ever is the command of Allah accomplished.
۞ تُرْجِى مَن تَشَآءُ مِنْهُنَّ وَتُـْٔوِىٓ إِلَيْكَ مَن تَشَآءُ ۖ وَمَنِ ٱبْتَغَيْتَ مِمَّنْ عَزَلْتَ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكَ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَن تَقَرَّ أَعْيُنُهُنَّ وَلَا يَحْزَنَّ وَيَرْضَيْنَ بِمَآ ءَاتَيْتَهُنَّ كُلُّهُنَّ ۚ وَٱللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ مَا فِى قُلُوبِكُمْ ۚ وَكَانَ ٱللَّهُ عَلِيمًا حَلِيمًۭا
You, [O Muhammad], may put aside whom you will of them or take to yourself whom you will. And any that you desire of those [wives] from whom you had [temporarily] separated - there is no blame upon you [in returning her]. That is more suitable that they should be content and not grieve and that they should be satisfied with what you have given them - all of them. And Allah knows what is in your hearts. And ever is Allah Knowing and Forbearing.
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About Jami` at-Tirmidhi
This hadith is #1182 from Jami` at-Tirmidhi, in the Book of The Book on Divorce and Li'an. It is graded Sahih and narrated by Aishah said:.